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                | 1.Q | 
                Tell me 
                  about the first time you remember being thrilled. | 
               
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                | 1.A | 
                Sexual 
                  thrill is easiest for me to remember: I was 6 and a teacher 
                  threatened to put me over her knee and give me 'a good old-fashioned 
                  spanking' | 
               
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                | 2.Q | 
                What’s the slightest thing 
                  to have thrilled you? | 
               
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                | 2.A | 
                A new female 
                  acquaintance mentioned, off-handedly, that she 'was never spanked'. 
                  The simple fact that she had used the word 'spanked' thrilled 
                  me--even though it was used in a negative context | 
               
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                | 3.Q | 
                What’s the most frightening 
                  yet thrilling thing you’ve done? | 
               
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                | 3.A | 
                Age 11: 
                  going down rapids on a makeshift raft | 
               
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                | 4.Q | 
                Tell me 
                  why you’re not completely sensible. | 
               
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                | 4.A | 
                God knows! 
                  I'm just very, very lucky, I guess. | 
               
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                | 5.Q | 
                What’s 
                  the most uninhibited thing you’ve ever done? | 
               
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                | 5.A | 
                Sitting 
                  surrounded by drunken fascists, I proudly declared myself to 
                  be Irish; and offered to fight the whole man-jack of them | 
               
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                | 6.Q | 
                What have 
                  you considered doing for pleasure but were too concerned about 
                  the risks? | 
               
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                | 6.A | 
                Putting 
                  my stroppy wife across my knee. She would kill me if I tried 
                  it! | 
               
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                | 7.Q | 
                Describe 
                  the event in one sentence (there’s time to expand later) | 
               
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                | 7.A | 
                Dressed 
                  as a18th century French aristocrat, I had my bottom whipped 
                  by a woman dressed as a robber-girl | 
               
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                | 8.Q | 
                Tell me 
                  a bit about yourself around this time. | 
               
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                | 8.A | 
                I was in 
                  my late-twenties and, barely, earning a living as an actor. 
                  The incident took place, back-stage, during a production of 
                  The 'Snow Queen'. | 
               
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                | 9.Q | 
                List the 
                  sequence of events leading up to your thrill. Try to remember 
                  how you felt at each stage. The smallest detail could be important 
                  (this is your chance to expand). | 
               
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                | 9.A | 
                I was 
                    in the dressing-room waiting for my call. Another man was 
                    present. A female actor, playing the robber-girl, came off 
                    stage in a state of exhilaration--the audience's applause 
                    echoing down the stairs after her. She came into the men's 
                    dressing-room, carrying a riding-crop. She had spotted it 
                    as she was passing the props cupboard. There she stood, in 
                    her 
                    raggedy costume, swishing the crop through the air. She enquired 
                    of us: 
                    are either of you kinky? 
                  'Yes! I am,' I replied, 'I love being caned and spanked. 
                    You can cane me if 
                    you like!' 
                  I leaned over the back of a chair--presenting my silk-clad 
                    bottom as her 
                    target.  | 
               
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                | 10.Q | 
                What were 
                  your thoughts and feelings at the precise moment of thrill? | 
               
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                | 10.A | 
                As the 
                  swift and bitter strokes struck smartly home, I felt as if held 
                  in a flying eagle's talons: pain; comfort; exhilaration--were 
                  all components of the experience. | 
               
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                | 11.Q | 
                What did 
                  you do afterwards? | 
               
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                | 11.A | 
                I squeezed 
                  her hands and kissed her on the lips. Then my call came through 
                  the PA. I went on stage and found myself giving my best performance 
                  of the run (much more foppish and camp than hitherto the case). | 
               
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                | 12.Q | 
                What were 
                  the risks?  | 
               
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                | 12.A | 
                Her offer 
                  might have been 'only joking'; when I bent over the chair she 
                  might merely have laughed at me. The man who was present might 
                  have made some scornful comment. | 
               
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                | 13.Q | 
                What did 
                  you imagine other people thought of you during and after the 
                  event? | 
               
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                | 13.A | 
                I imagine 
                  she was taken aback to find such a willing recipient. I imagine 
                  the other man present was, perhaps, a little envious. | 
               
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                | 14.Q | 
                How often 
                  do you think about the event, and why?  | 
               
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                | 14.A | 
                It's difficult 
                  to quantify but I do think about it fairly often. I do so because 
                  it was the very first time I had expressed my desires in public 
                  and with such inhibition. | 
               
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                | 15.Q | 
                Some people 
                  probably don’t understand how such a thing can thrill 
                  you; explain it to them. | 
               
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                | 15.A | 
                Different 
                  strokes for different folks--I just prefer my strokes on the 
                  backside | 
               
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                | 16.Q | 
                What three 
                  changes could have made the experience better, and why? | 
               
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                | 16.A | 
                1) more 
                  time to savor the experience, both: the actual caning, and its 
                  finale. 
                  2) I feel I ought to have offered to reciprocate 
                  3) It would have been nice to get to know the woman more; but 
                  I haven't seen her since. | 
               
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